I am certain that I don’t even have to ask if there is someone reading this blog that has been affected by infidelity. It seems to be almost commonplace in this society and sadly, it is a huge problem in the Christian community, or among believers in Jesus and Christ followers.
It is probably the most painful and emotional thing that can happen to a person. Divorce and [infidelity is harder to deal with than a death]. In many ways, it is a death and the unfaithful person, if you have children, usually remains in your life.
When two people get married, become one and then separate, they do not immediately become two individuals again. One person is literally torn in half. Part of you is torn away.
I guess the questions would be: Is there life after this event? How do you get out of this depression, mental and emotional confusion and, despair? Is there life after infidelity and divorce?
I can definitely tell you and give you hope that there is a path through it. I am speaking now particularly to Christ followers. I have found my way, or better said, the Lord Jesus Christ guided me through to a new life that I could never have imagined before. To a new understanding of who I am, what I need to change and work on, and a totally new understanding of an intimate relationship with Almighty God through Christ by the Holy Spirit.
Just briefly, I would say I did a lot of praying and worshiping and asking hard questions of God and asking hard questions of myself.
I would suggest that the first thing you need to change is to stop thinking only of what someone has done to you and your family and start asking God to show you who you are, and what He needs to change in you.
The scripture says in James that God lifts up the humble, rejects the proud and, in scripture, judgment belongs to God alone. When we sit in judgment, we sit in the place of God. Jesus also teaches us to pray for those who abuse us, those who persecute us and to pray for our enemies, in spite of how angry we may feel.
I’m sure this is not something you want to do. But, because you are seeking God‘s help and blessing, it is something you need to do to be obedient to Him.
Every bad thing in life has an outcome that depends on your reaction to it. If you’re already insecure, you will be devastated. Begin asking the Lord to show you who you are in Christ. That means, show me Lord, how much you love me and value me and accept me.
The second most important thing you can do is to begin to have a private life of worship. Stop fretting, stop thinking about yourself, stop having a pity party for yourself, and put your life in God’s hands. This is what worship does. When you worship, you are proclaiming who God is. You praise His name for his love that endures forever, you cry out holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty, declaring that He is the ruler of Heaven and Earth, and all power and strength are in His hand, so that no one can stand against Him. This puts your life and your situation in the proper perspective, i.e., God is God, He is sovereign, His word is truth, and sin ruins everything.
I buried myself in God’s word and worship and other books to help me understand what was going on.
I have written down what the Lord took me through in a book called “Discover Victory In the Meaning of Your Life.” You can find it by clicking here. If they do not have it, you can order it.
I know this will help you because this is how I got to the other side of this personal, emotional and, destructive situation. I would never say, “I’m so glad that happened to me”, but I am very glad to be in the place that I am now compared to where I was before my divorce. I am a completely different person. Please check out my book, read it, study it and do the homework. Please put in the work, time and, effort. Your life will change.
As always, please feel free to message me if you want to open a discussion or have questions.
You are loved!
The snare of an affair: Click Here: Biblical Teaching/Counseling with June Hunt